No, you guys, it's not a date rape drug

Last week I wrote about a "female Viagra" under development called Lybrido and how scientists stupidly worry that it could be "too effective." That gem of a thought was tucked away at the end of a NYT mag cover story.

Of course something that promotes female sexuality couldn't be released without a dose of slut-shaming (not on the NYT author's part, mind you, but by the medical establishment). I rattle on for a few hundred words about how moronic that is here, if you're inclined to read it

Anyway, the post went kinda-sorta viral. Like 100K hits on the first day, 10K Facebook shares, 850 Twitter RTs, etc. Mostly people reinforced my point about how crazy it is to worry about women getting "too sexual," turning into out-of-control nymphos prone to binges of infidelity.

It was interesting going back and forth with the Interwebz about the blog. Witty banter. A few jokes. A lot of bafflement. Joe Rogan RT'd it (thanks for that, btw, Joe).

Then I started reading some tweeps expressing their own fears: that this lust drug could be used to replace roofies. 

Face palm.

Dude, that is so, so stupid.

No, you guys, Lybrido won't be used as a date rape drug because it's chemically, fundamentally different. You know why? Roofies knock you the hell out, that's how they're used to victimize people. Not by turning them into nymphos (do we seriously still use that term un-ironically?). To suggest a woman's increased libido leads to her getting raped is to grossly misunderstand the crime by placing the blame on women.

Saying a libido-booster could be dangerous to the ladyfolk suggests that we can't handle our sexuality, or that our sexuality puts us in harms way. It's a line of thinking ripped straight from the rhetoric of rape culture. Instead of telling men to not rape, it places the onus on women to avoid it.

Does Cialis cause men to get victimized? Viagra? How come no one's freaking out about men turning into their own kind of nympho? 

As I mentioned last week, scientists spoke about similar fears in the 1960s with the advent of birth control. God forbid women take control of their own sexuality, right? Right?! 

Nope.

Gentlemen, it's not us. It's you. 

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